This allows to use any serialisable type. The advantage is that moves
and clones are avoided (which would otherwise be needed to construct
e.g. a XmppStreamElement from a Stanza or Message).
First switch to LazyLock from OnceLock, to simplify the code.
Then concatenate the colour reset escape code instead of using
format!(), since the vast majority of those strings have more capacity
than their length it will avoid a reallocation in most cases.
This allows to detect and handle dying streams without getting stuck
forever.
Timeouts are always wrong, though, so we put the burden of choosing the
right values (mostly) on the creator of a stream.
Without the early return in XmlStream::poll_next in case of the stream
footer, the read state gets recreated and the logic at the top of that
function to actually handle stream shutdown gracefully is never
triggered.
Also that logic was incorrect; the correct behaviour is to wait for the
true EOF.
This makes the stream resets a lot safer, by preventing the forbidden
send-read-reset combination of events: the reset function on the
responder side now takes the element to send right before the reset,
enforcing a send-reset pattern.
